How Libra Makes Enemies
69Who Could Hate Gandhi? -- His Wife and Kids
Not the Sign of the Balance but the Sign of the Illusion of Balance
True Librans don’t like conflict or ugliness. They want tranquil homes decorated artistically. They are so gracious and generous that friends are shocked when they first see Libra throw a tantrum, or realize that Libra told a lie. Why, it’s hard to believe it’s the same person!
Hard to believe? Think of Mahatma Gandhi. He started as a lawyer, but quit and became famous for passive resistance. This was a great and successful political concept and also true to his sign. Libra shies from conflict everywhere -- except within the family. Hero though he was, Gandhi ignored his wife and refused to send his sons to college, disowning his eldest because he got married instead of being chaste; and I guarantee there was as much yelling in his home as in every Libra home. But then if the phone rings, Libra will answer it calmly and sweetly.
How to explain except to say that Libra is a cardinal sign with a masculine polarity? So beneath those kid gloves is iron. Librans want peace at any price. For negative Librans that means sneaking around, denial, controlling, and drama with family. If peace can’t be had, silence and secrets will do. Many Librans won't listen to stories of pain or unpleasantness and fool themselves that things they don't acknowledge didn't happen. Because they repress their pain and everybody else's pain, the women have meltdowns. Think of Judge Judy (Oct. 21) and the pain she's seen and absorbed over 25 years as a judge in family court. She balances that by verbally skewering and humiliating people. Another judge with an attitude is Simon Cowell (Oct. 7). Men with a Libra Sun or Moon are masters of “the silent treatment” and passive aggression. It took Libran baseball idol Mark McGwire (Oct. 1) five years to confess to using steroids. It might take five years to get your own Libra male off your sofa. He will yell that all he wants is some peace.
Librans speak kindly in public, but even the great ones do not really believe others have feelings or brains. They see everyone as mindless and feel called to enlighten them (Gandhi again, and John Lennon (Oct. 9), who cheated on his first wife "thousands" of times and told her so). A Libra mom still reminds her 50-year-old daughters to say “Thank you.” These people are worrywarts and being alone scares them, so they balance that with food, especially fats, alcohol, and sweets, and they urge others to overindulge along with them. Like the diet sodas they love, negative Librans are "artificially sweet."
Often, Libra guests arrive late if at all, and invitations from Libra specify the time you should leave so they can be their irritable selves again. A Libran I worked with began the day by removing her coat and airing her daily 20-minute complaint. She had no idea she had this habit. Another Libran I knew years later did the same; hard to believe, but true! I'd invited her to be part of a group, and they made fun of her "opening monologue" behind her back.
A negative Libra will move in or marry to escape the financial or emotional pit they have dug for themselves. When charged with bad behavior, Libras will start in, “Oh, I’m such a bad person. I’ve been so bad to you all this time.” The more articulate Libras will quote Gandhi: “Hate the sin but love the sinner.”
Hard-to-Love Libras: Al Sharpton (Oct. 3), Lee Harvey Oswald (Oct. 18), George Zimmerman, killer of Trayvon Martin (Oct. 5).
Sylvia Sky writes about astrology and occult matters. See How Taurus Makes Enemies. Copyright 2012 by Sylvia Sky.
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to add, i truly think if all libras are like this in private with their family, husband, wives, children, then i begin to wonder, if they should just remain single and live their lives in a monk like fashion? because that is the only thing that will truly make them happy. i know it's our choice to take drugs, drink ect but when you're a child, it's hard to make a definite choice so you get depressed and begin to think why did i get born into this family, of my libra mother's deception? dont get me wrong, she has many good qualities: she can make many friends but her friends take advantage of her, and the good ones admit to her that its easy to take advantage of her so they feel bad.
it is like my mother likes to be peaceful so much she allows people to take her for granted all the time but with her family, the controlling and cruelty begins. and i'm glad this is anonymous because if she knew i revealed this about her, she would hate me and call me a traitor to the family and to her for revealing the truth. it is like she wants to be looked upon as the saint.
Wow. I'm a libra abs this in no way describes me.
Oh man. I'm Libra female... and I can definitely see elements of my "negative" side in this. But mostly, this describes my Libra step-father *almost* to a T. There was one discrepancy... the article describes Libra as "always being late", if they show up at all. My step-father always shows up WAY early. If he says "we'll meet at noon," he will likely be there at 11am, if not earlier. And he'll be annoyed that you're not as early as he is. But pretty much everything else is right on for him. He's a negative Libra, I'd say. I think the negative aspects are accentuated in him. He has an incredibly controlling nature (whereas I am live-and-let-live type), and it repels people. I often wonder what his Moon and Rising signs are.
As for me... the parts that ring true for me are that I'm usually very calm, reasonable, nice, and gracious... but, I have a dark side... and when it comes out, the people who have not seen that side of me are rather shocked that I can be so cold and well, angry. I do tend to get frustrated easily... but when it comes to conflict within my family... I do let my frustrations get to me more than I should, but I cannot STAND conflict with my husband. The tiniest bit of conflict (even if unintended from him) sends me on the verge of tears (probably because I'm Cancer Rising). But the way I handle my anger/frustrations is far different than the way my step-father handles his. My Capricorn Moon sign helps ground me, I think, and helps me to stop and think rationally before going off the handle. My immediate family is so important to me that it's basically where I want peace the most. But, I can be passive aggressive... while simultaneously being extremely affectionate (it's always been incredibly important to me to tell my husband and my kids every day that I love them, often multiple times in the day... and to show lots of physical affection. Yes, I can be clingy in that respect... but thankfully my Aries husband responds well to that and will be just as affectionate with me).
The part about "specifying an end time" for my guests to leave CAN be true. Not always. I'm very much a home-body, so if I have visitors, I actually like it for them to stay past the time they were planning on leaving. I don't usually get to converse with someone in person other than my husband and kids, so sometimes having another person come over, I kind of want them to stay for a while, lol. But when I was younger, when my friends would come over, I often DID have a general time that I wanted them to leave... and if they annoyed me, I had a tendency to be somewhat rude to them.
Libars are so like that, stop fronting people! Always some drama when a Libra is around, always! As long as my dad isn't home we have no fights or problems but the minute the family finds out his shift is over and he's on his way to the house, we dodge and go to our rooms to avoid him. It's like that with my best girlfriend too, nobody really cares for her we just tolerate her presence. This article is real.
Imagine having a Libra mother-in-law who is divorced and upset with everyone. Blames everyone. Her son is betraying her, etc. And the cyclone part is totally true. Talk about losing it and becoming hysterical. Almost like a child acting out the worst tantrum ever!
saw this article on libras because the libras in my family love conflict. so i begin to wonder, if it's because of what this article says:
" but the good news with the Sun in Libra is that Libra needs stress and strife, for without strife, Libra has nothing to work with, nothing to bring into balance, nothing to peaceably resolve, no equitable justice to serve."
I appreciate having that new and compassionate point of view on Libras. Thank you.
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this is bang on about libra, thank you.
i have a libra mother and she fights with everyone in the family, driving them away from her. she is so cold blooded that there has never been any warmth from her ever. but she is still our mother, so we love her because of the blood relation. we were raised by our families - especially my father's side of the family to have a structured life home. my father has a scorpio moon and he has been drinking his misery away due to her.
how so true this article is, to hit home. she tells us to never reveal the dark secrets to our family - which is her fighting with us all the time - that is her dark secret because she drives us to go to therapy and drink and drugs. to the point that when we leave she wonders why she is alone. then, she tells us we are all betrayers because we allowed all the truths to come out about her unpeaceful nature within the family. she does answer the door, phone with a winning deceptive smile and everyone buys it.